If you want to enjoy a happy life
Learn the ‘art of optimism’....
Look for the positive element in every situation. It is actually like preventative medicine. Granted there are times this practice is particularly challenging, yet it is totally possible, perfect practice makes perfect. This is a practice and a discipline.
It is very easy to find the fault in people, decisions, outcomes and experience. It is a fine and very self gratifying practice to learn the art of optimism and defaulting your behaviour to search for what can be learned or what the positive of any situation is. This actually has a physical or biological effect on your brain that then penetrates into your body. It is just healthier for you. Then by default it is healthier for those around you too. I just had a brief chat with a neighbour who just returned from a 5 week holiday and I learned the 5 things about her trip that she didn’t like! This is an obvious example, and if she had a default habit or behaviour of exercising the ‘art of optimism’ perhaps I would have heard about the 5 most unreal things about her holiday and perhaps she would have had a way better experience on that holiday?
The benefits you stand to gain are:
Increased: intelligence, happy feelings and energy, positive interactions with others, expanded ideas and possibilities or creativity and overall increase in general y positive experiences as little as they may be. Two little good experiences are better then one big bad one! Especially if this is in your control to manufacture.
Decreased: negative experiences, stress or depression or bitterness or hopelessness, negative perceptions, negative thoughts about people or circumstances
If you are looking to see the optimistic aspects of any situation you are far more likely to find them. If you have a default behaviour that gravitates toward seeing the negative in situations or people, you will most certainly find that negative. Then you have a physical experience that is either positive for you or negative for you. The more negative experience your body has emotionally and physically the worse it is for you. The more positive emotional and physical experiences your body and mind has, the better it is for you and consequently those around you.
Optimism isn’t weak, it isn’t about not speaking up or just accepting things for the sake of keeping the peace. It is the fine art of developing a healthier habit. It is understanding what is your ego having too much of the say. It is knowing how to hear what people are saying, so you need to stop the voices in your own head long enough to listen and hear and understand. It is about truly desiring optimistic experiences and outcomes that are win/ win and not win/ lose.
It is about understanding we don’t have control over much of life and we do have control over how we perceive it.
Look for the potential in people and situations. Look for your own potential and most importantly, dig what you are about. Dig who you are and what you stand for and what it is that you want to achieve in your life time. What experiences would you like to have and what contribution to this planet would you like to make.
When you help someone else what happens is, in ways you may not be conscious of, you actually help yourself. When you forgive someone or something, you do more for yourself then meets the eye.
The art of optimism is a genuine health elixir.
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