Great Thinking

Are they rose coloured glasses?

Each month “Great Thinking” Personal Coaching updates its blog link depending on a commonality of theme that seems to uncannily reoccur through the month having an effect on so many of my clients within that month.  Perhaps that is a perfect example and therefore an ideal segway into “Are they rose coloured glasses?

To lead into the meat of the blog...To know and not to do is not to know or sometimes we know stuff but we forget it or it gets overshadowed by other moments, thoughts and information.

You see people and situations through your own “coloured glasses”, your own personal set of filters.  Put on a pair of 3d glasses and everything you see is slightly altered.  I would like to hop into other people’s heads sometimes just to see things how they are perceiving things.

The way you perceive ‘things’ is due to the filters you have developed, your personal filters are not in your eyes, they are in your brain, your thoughts, they are in the maps in your brain that have formed over your years of experiences.  We actually see what we are expecting and assuming.  A small easy example of that is when you purchase a new car, all of a sudden you become very aware of and consequently notice heaps of those cars on the road. A slightly more complex explanation of this is perhaps expecting a certain behaviour or result from somebody that is not exactly positive and therefore finding that result and not being pleased with your perceptions.  (This could explain why you don’t see eye to eye with your Mother in law or your co worker or why you find every cab driver in the city very rude etc).

It is an extremely powerful reality to understand and live by in the corporate or business sector or in families and relationships.  If we look for warts and weaknesses, we will see them.  Then we will behave according to what we have perceived.  That’s not rose coloured glasses.  If we look for potential and strong points equally, we will find those or something shimmering in the dust that could manifest into a positive.  A bit like diamond or opal mining, the gem is there in all its glory disguised within a muddy looking rock you would merely step straight over it if you were not looking for it.  I know I have been opal mining.  I know because I have had a team member I was in charge of leading and coaching who was due to be fired due to my leaders only perceiving the muddy rock.  He is now in a promoted position earning six figures in that same company.  If we look for potential and strong points equally, we will find those, then our own behaviour, reaction and thoughts will naturally occur as a result of this perception.  It is a useful habit to adopt.  “Rose coloured glasses”

It is your classic glass half full or half empty with a bit of a lemon twist.  We perceive what we believe.  It is an extremely powerful reality to understand and live by.  Be mindful to this and question your own set of realities, relationships and experiences.  Is there a common theme of positive or negative?  What colour glasses are you wearing?

Just expect to find the potential in everyone.  Have an awesome month Babes.