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Success strategy tip

In order to be successful in whatever it is you are endeavouring, there are proven formulas to follow, you don't have to rewrite the rule book.

Knowing what to do and doing it are two COMPLETELY DIFFERENT things.

Here is a handy tip:  Write 2 lists

1.  Write yourself a list of 10 things that you do that support your success. Examples may be: getting up early and training, not turning on my computer until 10am, Reading one chapter of a specific subject per day, drinking water first thing and last thing, phoning prospects before 10am or after 3pm, having a coach etc...

2.  Then write a list of 10 things you do that do not support your success.

This brings to your conscious mind more of an awareness of when you are in success mode or if you are in sabotage mode.

Spend more time doing the things in list number 1.

Ros Loxton – Great Thinking Life and Results Coaching www.greatthinking.net.au

Susie’s Tips for the week ahead
  
How to lose 5kgs before Christmas
With less than 2 months until Christmas, many of us would like to drop  a few extra kg's before the party season. In all seriousness you need to  be pretty committed to lose weight at this time of year but it is not  impossible. Here are the key things you need to concentrate on:

1. Choosing a plain salad with 100g chicken, lean beef or  fish for lunch and dinner  
2. Alcohol once each week  
3. Skipping for 10 minutes each day  
4. No milk based coffee – plain tea only  
5. Snack 1-2x a day on a piece of fruit or 10-15 nuts  
6. Breakfast as your largest meal  
7. 3 cups salad or vegetables each day  
8. 1 mixed fruit/vegetable juice mid morning or afternoon  
9. Walk for 30 minutes/day  
10. Enjoy just 1 meal off plan a week or 60 minutes high intensity exercise to compensate for dinners out

By Susie Burrell Nutritionist

Just can't get along with someone?

If we are having trouble getting along with someone or several people, it is definitely time to look at our self.  The experience we are having is our experience, our feelings, our thoughts.
We can't make other people act how we want them to, and if our contentment or goals are at the mercy of other people acting how we want them to, we stand to experience a vast variety of negative emotions, which, we can project or blame on the other party.  This is our mistake!

The answer is, take ownership and take responsibility or your own experience.

If our desired outcome is to interact in a positive way, to have healthy relationships at work or home, to get along with clients, customers, colleges, partners and people across the board, then this will be the experience we will have.  If we have a negative experience with someone, it is because we have scanned their information through our mental filters and had a certain emotional and physical experience with that.

Release the judgement and the expectations and replace it with genuinely trying to understand the other parties mind.  You don’t have to accept bad behaviour; you just alter your experience with it.  Adopt the habit of taking responsibility for how you feel.  If we are angry or holding negative judgement, understand we have control to release this... "let go".  Stretch yourself and grow your skills to a new level that supports letting go of negative judgement and taking more responsibility for genuinely desiring positive outcomes and interactions.

A great deal of our conflicts or mis communications are a result of us not taking more responsibility to effect a better outcome.  Though we feel justified relinquishing our responsibility and blaming someone or something else.

Ask yourself, what could I do or think in this moment that will be more likely deliver a more positive experience and outcome?

At the very least there is always something we can learn.

By Ros Loxton – Great Thinking Life and Results Coaching   www.greatthinking.net.au

If you want to enjoy a happy life

Learn the ‘art of optimism’....

Look for the positive element in every situation.  It is actually like preventative medicine.  Granted there are times this practice is particularly challenging, yet it is totally possible, perfect practice makes perfect.  This is a practice and a discipline.   

It is very easy to find the fault in people, decisions, outcomes and experience.  It is a fine and very self gratifying practice to learn the art of optimism and defaulting your behaviour to search for what can be learned or what the positive of any situation is.  This actually has a physical or biological effect on your brain that then penetrates into your body.  It is just healthier for you.  Then by default it is healthier for those around you too.  I just had a brief chat with a neighbour who just returned from a 5 week holiday and I learned the 5 things about her trip that she didn’t like!  This is an obvious example, and if she had a default habit or behaviour of exercising the ‘art of optimism’ perhaps I would have heard about the 5 most unreal things about her holiday and perhaps she would have had a way better experience on that holiday?

The benefits you stand to gain are:

Increased:  intelligence, happy feelings and energy, positive interactions with others, expanded ideas and possibilities or creativity and overall increase in general y positive experiences as little as they may be.  Two little good experiences are better then one big bad one!  Especially if this is in your control to manufacture. 

Decreased:  negative experiences, stress or depression or bitterness or hopelessness, negative perceptions, negative thoughts about people or circumstances

If you are looking to see the optimistic aspects of any situation you are far more likely to find them.  If you have a default behaviour that gravitates toward seeing the negative in situations or people, you will most certainly find that negative.  Then you have a physical experience that is either positive for you or negative for you.  The more negative experience your body has emotionally and physically the worse it is for you.  The more positive emotional and physical experiences your body and mind has, the better it is for you and consequently those around you.

Optimism isn’t weak, it isn’t about not speaking up or just accepting things for the sake of keeping the peace.  It is the fine art of developing a healthier habit.  It is understanding what is your ego having too much of the say.  It is knowing how to hear what people are saying, so you need to stop the voices in your own head long enough to listen and hear and understand.  It is about truly desiring optimistic experiences and outcomes that are win/ win and not win/ lose. 

It is about understanding we don’t have control over much of life and we do have control over how we perceive it.

Look for the potential in people and situations.  Look for your own potential and most importantly, dig what you are about.  Dig who you are and what you stand for and what it is that you want to achieve in your life time.  What experiences would you like to have and what contribution to this planet would you like to make. 

When you help someone else what happens is, in ways you may not be conscious of, you actually help yourself.  When you forgive someone or something, you do more for yourself then meets the eye. 

The art of optimism is a genuine health elixir.